1. Her first major novel (Northanger Abbey) was written solely because she was so salty about how dramatic and cliche and formula Gothic novels were. You know what I mean. Every castle is foreboding. Every villain is awful but canât bring himself to kill the heroine because sheâs Too Pure. Every middle-aged female companion wants to do the heroine in. The heroine is Pure and Perfect and Is Good At Everything Young Women Should Be and recites quotes and/or the Bible whenever sheâs in danger and that makes everything better. All butlers are evil. Jane Austen wrote a book specifically to go âTHIS is how NORMAL people react to things!!!â
2. âShe never changed her opinion about books or menâ
3. âAs a girl she wrote stories, including burlesques of popular romancesâ and you know what that means. Jane Austen started off writing smut fanfiction. If thatâs not writing reassurement that you can be great no matter what you choose to write, I donât know what is.
(Both quotes from the Penguin Classics version of Northanger Abbey)
– The reason you get extra hungry before and during your period is because your body is physically burning more calories, sometimes as many as 300 more per day for the duration of your period, with an elevated BMR (base metabolic rate) in the days before it starts. So no, youâre not being weird or gross or undisciplined if you want to eat a bunch of chocolate – your body is just burning the same amount of calories youâd expend in 25 minutes on a crosstrainer to shed your uterine lining.Â
– This is especially important to remember if youâre already, for whatever reason, eating fewer calories per day than it takes to maintain your current weight, which is about 2000 for an adult, though it can be dangerous to have much less than 1300 per day. Think of it like this: if youâre eating 1600 calories a day out of a potential healthy 2000, and your body suddenly wants an extra 300, youâre not craving 1900, but 2300, which is the difference between wanting a chocolate bar and a slice of toast, and wanting an entire extra meal. So, I say again: DO NOT feel bad about wanting to eat more during your period. Your body is working hard, and needs fuel!
– Â Paradoxically, despite the rate at which youâre burning calories, youâre also retaining water, which can make you both feel and weigh as heavier. Speaking personally, Iâve noticed my weight fluctuate by as much two kilos (4.5 pounds) before and after a period, rising before and during, then dropping sharply afterwards. So if youâre struggling with body image or weight issues, this is a suboptimal time at which to get on the scales: the result youâll get will only reflect a temporary reality, not your actual progress, and is therefore unhelpful.
– If, for whatever reason, youâre self-conscious about easing your cramps with a hot water bottle where other people can see it, whether at home or work, consider using a plastic soft drink bottle filled with hot/boiling water. Even if you put it openly on your lap, instead of tucking it under a shirt or into a front hoodie pocket, it will just look like a regular bottle of water, and any relief is better than none!
– No, itâs not weird if you shit more during your period than usual, either. The hormones your body releases that make your uterus to contract and release sometimes end up in the bowel, particularly if you happen to produce a lot of them, which means that bowel contracts and releases, too.
– If anyone tries to make a dumbass sexist joke about your being more [insert stereotypically negative feminine quality here] while on your period, you can tell them that actually, menstruation raises testosterone levels, not oestrogen. (Telling them to go fuck themselves with an angry cactus can also be therapeutic.)
– The cramps and lower back pain often experienced during menstruation, when the uterus expels its contents and your hips shift slightly wider to accommodate it, are a microcosm of what happens during actual labour. So yeah: it can hurt!
– That being said, weâve culturally accepted the idea of massive period pain as normative to such an extent that many people donât realise their pain is a sign that somethingâs wrong. Despite how common they are, a lot of conditions like PCOS and endometriosis are poorly understood in terms of their etiology, which means it can be hard to get an accurate diagnosis. But if your periods regularly have you screaming, vomiting or totally incapacitated, get checked out: you shouldnât have to just shut up and endure because itâs âmeantâ to feel like that. Itâs not, and there are ways to manage it.
– As well as being a form of birth control, you can take the pill to control or stop your period. When used to prevent menstruation, the pill tricks the body into thinking youâre already pregnant, which stalls your cycle (and stops you from actually getting pregnant). Though some people worry that itâs unnatural not to menstruate for long periods of time, or for your body to âfeelâ pregnant for so long, itâs also important to remember that, after an actual pregnancy, especially if you breastfeed, your period wonât resume right away. This is calledÂ
lactational amenorrhea, which can work as a form (though not, I hasten to add, a 100% reliable form) of natural birth control. Basically, it means your body is focussed on producing milk for an existing child, such that you canât easily conceive another one until the first child is weaned. While this varies from person to person, the important thing to remember is that thereâs ample biological precedent for stopping menstruation for long periods of time whether youâre pregnant or not, and that choosing to do so via the pill doesnât make you unnatural, nor does it cause your body to do something it otherwise wouldnât or couldnât.Â
In conclusion: periods suck, but knowing how and why they work and how best to manage them can make them suck slightly less. So go ye forth, and be educated!
As someone who had to have a uterus removed for severe endometriosis, I will always reblog this sort of information. Donât sit and endure, and donât listen to the twatwaffles who insist that the pain is normal or youâre just overreacting. It isnât just in your head and you are in legitimate pain.
Also!!!! From personal experience: if you find you get really unbearably tired/physically exhausted and depressed for no discernible reason right before/during the heaviest part of of your period, consider asking your doctor about getting your blood checked!!
I assumed for years that being exhausted and depressed to the point of barely being able to move from bed or focus on anything during my period was just part of the normal suffering, and then when I mentioned it to my doctor while troubleshooting for possible depression she said âHmm⌠thatâs uh, not normal.â and made me get a test to check for blood disorders. Turns out my blood iron levels were at like, critical rock-bottom (aka I now had severe anemia) due to me having pretty heavy periods for such a small person! I was basically living a week of my life every month like a person dying of severe blood loss, exhausted because my cells werenât getting the oxygen they needed to make energy. She said it probably had been that way for a long while and getting worse over time, and I had no idea, because nobody in health class or anywhere else had ever told me it was a thing that might happen!
Trying to get birth control sorted out such that it minimizes/eliminates my period is still a work in progress, but in the meantime Iâve also been on (relatively inexpensive, like $10 buys 105 of them) daily over-the-counter oral iron supplements which in six months brought my blood back to healthy iron levels and allowed me to function with something more like a normal human level of energy again, no matter what time of the month it is!
If your period is causing side effects that are severely interfering with your ability to live your life, even if you think that might be ânormalâ please talk to a healthcare expert about it if you can! There are more options to help with this stuff than you might think, and way way more layers to the subject than anyone ever taught you in middle school sex ed.
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